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How to overcome severe anxiety and major addictions

Beth Burgess on how to overcome severe anxiety and major addictions in favor of a happy, healthy life. http://rachelrofe.com/beth-burgess-on-how-to-overcome-severe-anxiety-and-major-addictions-in-favor-of-a-happy-healthy-life

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How to overcome severe anxiety and major addictions

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  1. Beth Burgess on how to overcome severe anxiety and major addictions in favor of a happy, healthy life.

  2. Beth is a solution focus therapist, coach and writer specializing in addiction, anxiety disorders, stress, self esteem and mental wellbeing. She is the author of "The Recovery Formula" and "The Happy Addict." I've actually never talked to Beth before.

  3. She had a lot of struggles in her life that's included addiction, borderline personality, self-harm, social phobia--all sorts of things. She thinks it's a culmination of having worked on herself and actually faced up to the truth of the matter in the end. She struggled for a long time before realizing what I had to do to get better. She’s just proud of having worked through it because it was hard, it took courage--a lot and learning to do things I've never considered before.

  4. Her life looks like this now… Even if she has a bad day, she can always look back at the days what she used to have an compare that and realize she’s actually very lucky. She’s lucky enough to be able to work with people on a one-to-one basis all the time, she writes a lot, which is something she loves doing as well, so she writes articles about giving other people hope and inspiration. She gets to talk to lovely people as well and share my message.

  5. One of the hardest things was her social anxiety disorder because she had that from a very young age. She started really developing the symptoms around the age of 14. She started being afraid of eating in front of people. She thinks that was one of the toughest things. You just feel so stuck. You think that's going to be the rest of your life. You just think, "The rest of my life is going to be like this." Quite frankly, the way she felt it, she tried to commit suicide about seven times in total. Even when she stopped doing that.

  6. How did she change her life??? She realized that she could either just stay stuck where she was and just continue doing that until the inevitable happens or she could try her very hardest to try to find some solutions for it. She was determined to try everything that was going. She tried counseling or medication and she just lose hope again because it's another thing that didn’t work. She’s lucky that her family wouldn't let her give up. It was a case of continuing and finding that courage to carry on even though life is awful at that time. It was just carrying on and believing that one day she would find some kind of solution to it. This is what she believes of everything in life, basically: If you keep on going with it, it eventually comes to you. You just have to not give up. There's a solution for everything. She thinks that's one of the biggest things she has learned coming through all of this--there's a solution for everything.

  7. She went to see an NLP practitioner. It's something called Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

  8. How did she deal addiction??? Firstly, learn about addiction because addiction is one of those things that seems like it defies logic if you don't have it. If you don't have an addiction, watching someone who has an addiction you just think, "Why are you killing yourself? Why are you doing this? It's insane." You have to learn about the way the brain works if you want to overcome an addiction because it will trick you. It tries to trick you into drinking. There's all sorts of weird mechanisms that go on when you have an addiction. It's partly genetic. It's partly the way your brain works.

  9. She became a Buddhist. It's basically a way of life. It's a way of causing yourself less suffering by the way that you think and the way you act in the world. It's basically a way of freeing yourself from negative moods and negative thinking and always trying to crave things you don't have.

  10. She teaches Dialectical Core Behavior Therapy. People have probably heard of CBT, which is Cognitive Behavior Therapy. DBT is a special one which is sort of combined with elements of Buddhism. It's used for people with personality disorders. DBT is more about learning to accept things you can't change, to change things you can and have the courage to do that.

  11. Things like mindfulness meditation teach you to train your brain to come back to the present and focus on that rather than worrying about the past or the future. It's about becoming a more effective person that doesn't waste their energy on stressing out about things, worrying about things, thinking negative things about people.

  12. She started doing something which she kind of knew was where her heart was. She started working with the homeless as a volunteer. She didn't just start doing therapy with people. She always wanted to be a journalist so she went off and did that and she did some journalism. She found she missed helping people. She found that there wasn't as much meaning to her life when she wasn't doing the things she was doing before with helping people out. If you can find your mission, again, you have no reason really not to be happy every day.

  13. How to find what’s meaningful to you??? Look at what your values are. If you don't know what they are, have a think about who you consider your hero. It might be someone famous. It might be someone who lives next door. Someone you really admire. Then you can have a look at the things that it is that you admire about them. Think about what you have fun doing as well.

  14. Everyone has to do it for themselves at the end of the day. It's very helpful to have people around you that do support. If you don't have that, you can get better anyway. This is something I really want to get across to people because sometimes people feel because they have a disorder or an illness or are in a bit of trouble they have no faith in themselves and they think, "That's it now. I can't do anything."

  15. What is “reprocess the memory”? You basically go back into childhood, you go back and you view it form a new perspective. The reason why these things get stuck is because we're still feeling them from a childhood perspective. It's a bit complex to say actually how you do it because it's quite weird. You almost take someone back in time so that they were there again and you get to reprocess it from that perspective.

  16. We all have to run around and grab things and either work or exercise or drink some coffee or have a cigarette, all of those things, the things that our brain wants us to do. It's in our biology to do that but it doesn't' mean we can't overcome it.

  17. An addicted brain looks exactly the same as a brain that is prone to addiction but hasn't touched an addictive thing at all. If you scan the brain of someone who's never taken an addictive substance but has a family history of it and you compare that to the brain scan of someone who has taken addictive things and has made this neuro path in their brain, it's the same. Basically, how can you tell if you've got it, which might be a more useful thing. Usually what she find is, again, there's some kind of family history. It doesn't have to be the thing that you're addicted to.

  18. According to Beth: There are two parts. When I say 3% to 10%, again, we're talking about people who have manifested that. For example, if you have a predisposition to addiction, that doesn't necessarily mean you end up as an alcoholic. From working with people, what I usually find is there's some element of trauma (again, it can be big T or little T) that starts off a period of heavy drinking if you have a predisposition. Now there are other people who drink situationally. I don't know if they have bereavement or a period of life which is extremely difficult and then they drink. Usually I find with those people they are the ones that can stop if they want to. For a biological alcoholic, if you have one drink, that's it. That sets it off. You cannot stop them for the rest of the evening. Whereas someone who's drinking heavily, maybe they'll have three to five drinks, but they can stop if they want to. An addict really feels compelled to just continue. They feel like they can't stop.

  19. Supporting people from addiction… Always say to people is to positively reinforce them for times when they don't do the addictive behavior. Number one, don't enable them. The second thing is, when they're really trying hard not to do the substance or when they're seeking help, be so supportive. Be kind to them. Be encouraging. Give them quality time. Give them lots of hugs and kisses. Really support what they're doing. Just bear that in mind. Just be gentle with them, be kind to them if you can and keep yourself safe as well.

  20. It's a choice at the end of the day of what you want to do. You can start out by doing little things. People find change hard. Again, it's one of these things that's wired into our brains from the caveman days. We don't like change because it's see as scary in some way. You can do little things.

  21. Beth’s Website:

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