Identify, Cope, Prevent

1. Identify, Cope, Prevent

2. What is Bullying? Physical bullying increases in elementary school, peaks in middle school and declines in high school. Verbal abuse, on the other hand, remains constant. • Deliberately and repeatedly hurting others with words or actions.

3. Forms of Bullying • Physical • Hitting, kicking, pinching, poking, pushing, tripping, hair pulling, etc. • Emotional • Rejecting, terrorizing, extorting, humiliating, rating/ranking, intimidation, manipulating, ostracizing, peer pressure. • Social • Spreading rumors, graffiti and defacing property. • Verbal • Name calling, teasing, mocking, insults, offensive and threatening language. • Cyber-bullying • Occurs via the Internet, mobile phones or other cyber technology. (1) sending malicious text, e-mail, or instant messages (2) posting defamatory pictures or messages about others in blogs or on websites (3) using someone else’s user name to spread rumors or lies about someone. • Sexual • Exhibitionism, voyeurism, sexual propositioning, sexual harassment, sexual abuse, etc.

4. 3 Components of Bullying: • Behavior • Aggressive behavior with the intent of doing harm to another or a group. • Frequency • Occurs repeatedly over a long period of time. • Targets • Victim(s) is/are less powerful (physically and/or psychologically weaker). Both, bullies and chronic victims of bullying have problems throughout their lives developing friendships, and are often loners. The Journal of the American Medical Association

5. Intent of Bullying • Mental/Emotional Undermine • Political Intimidate • Physical Terrorize

6. Why Do Bullies Bully? Bullies often… Bullies may even… Lack consistent discipline or monitoring in home environment, Live in punitive atmosphere, Witness aggression within home, Lack attentive or loving home environment. Live in single-parent families. • Seek social recognition • Supported by friends or peer group • Lose moral compass • Desire power and/or dominance • Fascinated by violence • Experience academic failure • Have high self-esteem

7. Cause and Effect “every1 will be happy if u died” “drink bleach” “go die” “Whats been up with u” “U’ll see soon!”

8. Harassment and bullying have been linked to 75% of school shooting incidents. Approximately 160,000 teens skip school every day because of bullying.

9. Consequences • After the suicide of 12 year old Rebecca Sedwick, two suspects, ages 12 and 14, were charged with felony aggravated stalking. • “In the [Phoebe] Prince case, two boys and four girls, ages 16 to 18, face a different mix of felony charges that include statutory rape, violation of civil rights with bodily injury, harassment, stalking and disturbing a school assembly.”

10. Identify Form of Bullying Story A Story B Every Monday Kristy comes to school, she is met by a group of older boys who push her and take her lunch money. The only time the boys don’t do this is when Kristy manages to walk in the school gate with a group of friends. She is too afraid of the boys to tell an adult. • Anna arrives at a new school. She doesn’t know anybody. Her teacher asks two girls in her class to play with her at recess. But when Anna tries to talk to them, they pretend they can’t hear her. Anna spends the rest of the recess hiding in the bathroom.

11. Story a Story b Kristy is experiencing physical and emotional bullying. The boys repeatedly bully Kristy. Kristy feels intimidated and fears speaking out about the abuse. How do you think Kristy feels? Terrorized, humiliated, intimidated, powerless? • Anna is experiencing emotional bullying. • How do you think Anna feels? • Ostracized, rejected, alone, low self-esteem?

12. What Can You Do? Victim bystander Speak up. Tell someone. Guide victim away from bully. Avoid becoming an audience. Do not laugh at or instigate bullying. • Walk away. • Tell an adult. • Speak loudly and firmly. • Stay calm and look confident. Remember: Bullies target weaker individuals.

13. BYSTANDER EFFECT Bystander Effect Bystander Effect - People watch girl being abducted

15. Who Can Help You? • Teachers • Counselors • Parents • Friends • Child Help Lines “Kid’s Help Phone” 1-800-668-6868 About 17% of all calls to child help lines are made by children who are being bullied.

16. How Can We Prevent Bullying? Support from Community, Schools, Youth and Parents

17. Prevent • Educate • Inform youth and adults of severity of bullying • Build healthy relationships • “The reality is we’re not talking to kids early enough and long enough about bullying and healthy relationships.” Bullying expert, Dorothy Espelage • Develop high self-esteem • Encourage confidence, tolerance, and respect. • Become aware • Identify bullies and victims • Hold regular meetings • Teachers, parents, students Up to 40% of children think teachers have no clue that bullying is happening within the school.

18. Prevent • Create open and safe environment • Assign student groups • Do not allow students to choose work groups. This creates exclusion. • Assigned seating • Be approachable • Do not dismiss student’s concerns. • Validate youth complaints and confessions • Involve parents • Be consistent • Expect consequences. By the average age of 23 children who had been bullied in school were found to still suffer from depression and stress related illnesses.

19. Shane Koyczan • "To This Day"

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