Goals for Today

1. When Push Comes to Shove:Contemporary Research, Assessment,and Treatment Innovations for Partner Abuse

2. Goals for Today • House of Abuse • Who They Are • Typology Issues • Risk Assessment • Controversies • Limbic System • Treatment • Women Who Abuse • Victim’s Experiences

3. Table of Contents – Part 1 I. THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE GLOSSARY II. The HOUSE OF ABUSE III. INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE TYPOLOGIES: Who Are These Guys? SIMILARITIES TYPOLOGIES & DIFFERENCES IV. RISK ASSESSMENT The CONFLICT TACTICS SCALE-Revised (CTS-R) The PSYCHOPATHY CHECKLIST-Revised (PCL-R) V. MALE PSYCHOLOGY SHAME-O-PHOBIA THE BROKEN MIRROR

4. Table of Contents – Part 2 VI. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TREATMENT PROGRAMS: NUTS & BOLTS The Fifteen Commandments of The STOP PROGRAM The Accountability Assumption THE PREVENTION PLAN “Spaghetti Man” VII. RULES OF ENGAGEMENT GUY TALK STRUCTURE & LIMIT-SETTING Emotional Hijacking by the Limbic System

5. Table of Contents – Part 2 VIII. FEMALE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE Treatment Groups for Female DV Offenders IX. Controversies in the field X. Domestic Violence Victims and the Classic Question: Why Do They Stay? Male Victims of Female DV Helping Victims Make Decisions What Not To Say and what to say To A Victim xi. Coordinated Community Response DV councils, Family Justice centers

6. The Power of YOU • Role Model • Mentor • Monitor • Stabilizer

7. Glossary GVA IVP DV IPT BWS RBI P&C FO BD SVC

8. Couples who are in an intimate partner relationship • Living together - or not • Gay - straight • Sexually active - or not • Long term - or first date • Ex-partners

9. House of Abuse

10. Physical Abuse

11. Verbal, Emotional, Psychological

12. Intimidation

13. Sexual Abuse

14. Isolation

15. Religious Abuse

16. Gender Privilege

17. Child Abuse

18. The Past Affects the Future

19. 100% RESPONSIBILITY For your own behavior

20. Who Are These Guys

21. The Tip of the Iceberg Physical Abuse often uncovers: • Threats • Mind Games • Intimidation • Self Defense

22. The Burning Bed A response to uncommon nasty and relentless violence

23. One Size Does Not Fit All

24. Similarities

25. Male Dominance • Political and Socio-cultural Subordination

26. IPT Includes an Embedded Pattern of Control

27. Shame Sensitivity • A self-fulfilling prophecy • If you’re sensitive, you are shamed everywhere

28. Recognize the Distinctions

29. Generally Violent Aggressor

30. Family Only

31. Low Level Anti Social

32. Borderline/Dysphoric

33. Implications For Treatment

34. Group Treatment

35. Risk Assessments

36. The Conflict Tactics Scale - Revised

37. The Fear Factor

38. Risk Prediction: Don’t Guess • SARA: Spousal Assault Risk Appraisal Guide (Kropp, 1994; 2000) • DAS: Dangerousness Assessment Scale (Campbell, 1995) • PAS: Propensity for Abusiveness Scale (Dutton, 1995)

39. Psychopathy

40. Male Psychology

41. Shame-o-Phobia

42. The Ice Water Study

43. Measuring Shame-o-Phobia • Masculine Gender Role Stress Scale (Eisler, 1987). • Gender Role Conflict Scale (Good, 1995).

44. Men Are Supposed to… • Men are supposed to be… strong, fast, a bread-winner, smart. • Men are supposed to do... work, fix things, outside work, the hard stuff, protect • Men are supposed to have… a job, a lot of money, daring, courage, sexual prowess, confidence • Men are NOT supposed to…be effeminate, cry, complain, be weak, and ever ever act like a girl

45. The “Code” Living up to the expectation of other males

46. The Broken Mirror

47. Alexithymia • Originally used to explain Vietnam Vets • Men suffered emotional trauma • Led to a state of being “Without Words For Feelings

48. Normative Male Alexithymia • Limited range in terms of being able to label an affective experience, and then to find the words to be able to communicate that to somebody else.

49. Distress Tolerance • Mature skill • Learning how to bear pain skillfully • Developing some increased empathy for the other person’s experience.

50. Treatment ProgramNuts and Bolts • Skill Based • Understanding psychological roots • Cognitive Behavioral