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New Parents And Married Life

New Parents And Married Life. Watch and Listen. New Parents And Married Life. Notes: John Gottman: psychologist and co-author of the book And Baby Makes Three Julie Schwartz Gottman: co-author of the book And Baby Makes Three. New Parents And Married Life.

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New Parents And Married Life

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  1. New Parents And Married Life Watch and Listen

  2. New Parents And Married Life • Notes: • John Gottman: psychologist and co-author of the book And Baby Makes Three • Julie Schwartz Gottman: co-author of the book And Baby Makes Three

  3. New Parents And Married Life • Watch the video and answer the following questions.

  4. 1. What happened to 67% of couples 3 years after having a baby? Suggested answer: They were actually unhappy with each other. next

  5. 2. What are the reasons behind the above fact according to Julie Schwartz Gottman? Suggested answer: It is a combination of two things: sleep deprivation and lots of work. next

  6. 3. What happens to parents when their sleep has disturbed for months? Suggested answer: Irritability increased hostility. They are mess. Then, if sleep deprivation is combined with all the hard work they have to do, it makes real difficulties in terms of their communicating with each other. next

  7. 4. What does John Gottman mean by “to Realize We’re All In The Same Soup”? Suggested answer: Everybody goes through the same thing, they wind up ignoring one another and feeling lonely and irritable. There is no time for finishing sentences, for really turning toward one another for affection, for romance, for passion. You can’t ignore a baby, so it really absorbs your focus. Relationship satisfaction really goes down the two. next

  8. 5. According to Julie Schwartz Gottman, what is the right way to cool down your conflicts? Suggested answer: First of all, drop criticism. Secondly, don’t get defensive. Third, don’t be contemptuous. Fourth don’t cut out your partner. next

  9. 6. According to John Gottman, what are couples fighting about mostly? Suggested answer: They fight about nothing. They can’t remember what the issue was. But they are mostly fighting about how they fight. And things get to be controlled struggles. next

  10. 7. According to Julie Schwartz Gottman, how can couples savor their friendship? Suggested answer: There is little small things they could do, just like little nuts and bolts tools to use to help conflict with friendship, they give appreciation, tell their partner thank you, turn towards their partner in those little moments when their partner asks them to do something. If they feel open to it, little sex is good too. next

  11. Thank you !

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