5 Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation

1. 5 Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation 440 Stevens Ave Suite 200Solana BeachCalifornia92075USAhttps://www.divorceoptionssandiego.com

2. Divorce Mediators in Sand Diego Mediation takes less time, promotes privacy, costs less money, and gives more control over the result of your divorce than the contested court system. But it doesn’t always work for every couple, especially if your spouse is intentionally hiding money, determined to fight you, or just refuses to mediate. Otherwise, mediation is a feasible way to resolve your divorce. Solana Beach divorce mediators share 5 practical tips to help you work the mediation process.

3. Choose the Right Mediator • All mediators and their working styles are not equal; some are better at handling difficult financial agreements and some are better at handling seriously conflicted emotional matters. Some will mediate situations involving domestic violence and some will not. If your case seems complicated in some sort or involves unique issues, make sure you find a mediator who is qualified and experience to handle your situation. Otherwise, your case may flounder simply because your mediator couldn’t efficiently navigate you through the specific points in your case.

4. Keep the Lawyers Out • Attorneys are trained to be advocates and are used to fighting in the court, so their sole focus is on winning, regardless of the cost and your feelings. But unfortunately, all these skills that make them shine in court can make them a disaster in mediation. Instead of helping couples reach an agreement, most (not all) lawyers only fuel the fight. Though having a lawyer for legal advice is important, involving then during the mediation session is not likely a good idea.

5. Do Your Homework • If your mediator asks you to bring financial documents, provide it. If you need to get pension information, property appraisal or know about school district boundaries so you can know where you will live after divorce to keep your children in the same school, just do it. You cannot argue about anything you don’t know. If you and your spouse don’t work on the tasks you need to so you can move forward in your mediation, you will stay where you are.

6. Understand Your Spouse’s Needs and Wants Before Mediation • You know your partner better than the mediator in terms of what is important for him or her, his or her needs and wants in the divorce, is he or she is willing to give up? If you know the answer to these questions, you can easily trade something your partner wants for something you want. It may sound awkward but it is a win-win situation.

7. Be Honest • If you want a lawyer to review your agreements before they are all set, let the mediator know that. Nothing will kill mediation quicker than one party constantly changing agreements and requesting to re-visit the issues that everyone thought were settled. • It may seem emotionally and mentally challenging but marital mediationcan go smoothly if you take some time for yourself to collect your thoughts and work with your spouse to settle all the issues peacefully.

8. Divorce Options San Diego Kevin Boileauhttps://www.divorceoptionssandiego.com 619-550-6807440 Stevens Ave Suite 200, Solana Beach, California, 92075, USA