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Discover the importance of love, affection, and discipline in raising godly children according to Biblical teachings. Learn how to show love, provide security, set rules, and discipline with love in mind to nurture your children properly. Embrace sacrifice, spend time with your children, and appreciate them as blessings from God.
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Key #3 : LOVE • Matthew 22:37-40 “love God” “love neighbor” • 1 Corinthians 13:4,5 “suffers long…is kind…does not envy…not parade itself…not puffed up…not behave rudely…not seek its own… not provoked…thinks no evil”
Loving One Another • Love enough to Stay Together • Matthew 19:9 • Children deserve the security of knowing their home will always be there • What troubled marriages need is not divorce but to learn to get along
Love Enough to Learn to Treat One Another Right • Titus 2:4-5 • Learn “to love their husbands, to love their children” • Ephesians 5:25 “husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church…” • Ephesians 5:28,29 “husbands love wives as own flesh • Ephesians 5:33 “love wife” “wife respects her husband”
Love Enough to Show Affection • 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 • Husband & Wife need to Speak & Act Affectionately • Do you love your wife / husband? • Did you hug & kiss & hold hands when first married? • What’s so hard about it now? • IF you Do Love, SAY SO & SHOW IT
Encourage Children Whenever Possible • Colossians 3:21 “do not provoke your children” • Avoid Humor that Frustrates, Discourages or Angers • Avoid Belittling Childish Mistakes • Set Expectations Within Reach of Child’s Ability • Express Appreciation for Accomplishments
Determine Rules & Punishment for Child’s Good • Make rules for the good of the whole group • Some children think being a parent means you get to do whatever you want! • NOT SO! • 1 Corinthians 13:3 “not seek own …is not selfish” • Matthew 7:12 “do unto others” • Colossians 3:21
Exercise Punishment For the Good of the Child • Hebrews 12:5-11 “chastens those He loves” • Proverbs 13:24 “He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.” • Proverbs 23:13,14 Proverbs 23:13-14 NKJV 13 Do not withhold correction from a child, …14 You shall beat him with a rod, And deliver his soul from hell.” • Child needs to learn to act properly and respect authority
Consider Some Guidelines Regarding Making Rules & Punishing in Love Never use your authority to get personal vengeance on the child Never punish the child in a fit of uncontrolled anger- Ephesians 4:26 Never use authority just to satisfy a desire for power When you make Rules or Punish your child, are you acting in Love for your child’s good?
Willingly Sacrifice for the Children’s Good • John 3:16 “God so loved the world” • Luke 10:25-37 Good Samaritan • 1 John 3:16-18 Imitate example of Jesus & show love to others • Children Need Our Time & Attention • Fathers specifically should take time for their children- 1 Timothy 5:8; Matthew 16:26 • What sacrifices are you making to give your children the time and attention they need?
Children Need Their Mother • Titus 2:4,5 – “workers at home” ASV “homemakers” NKJV • Proverbs 31:10-31 • Real Estate – vs. 16 buys a field, sells it, plants a vineyard • Clothing Industry – vs. 24 makes linen garments, sells them to the merchants • She does ALL of this & still cares for her family
Learn to Show Affection to Children • Appreciate Children as Blessings From God- • Genesis 33:5 • Psalm 127:3-5 • Psalm 128:3,4 • Titus 2:4 • How often do you really thank God for your children? • Do you consider them a blessing or a burden? • Do you act like you appreciate them?
Learn to Show Affection to Children • Show Affection by Words & by Physical Contact • Fathers especially need to learn to express love • Genesis 33:4 –embraced, kissed & wept • Genesis 45:15; 46:29 • Genesis 48:10 –kissed & embraced • 1 Kings 19:20 Elisha kissed father and mother goodbye • Luke 15:20 –embraced & kissed son • Romans 12:15 – rejoice / weep
1 Corinthians 13:13 NKJV 13 “And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”