Ministry to Hurting People

1. Ministry to Hurting People CSU Counseling Services Glenda K. Hill Nanna, MA/LPC Director of Counseling Services

2. Questions… • What do you have to offer to the people that you encounter as you minister? • Do you understand your limits? • Are you comfortable referring a person for pastoral or professional help? • Do you feel comfortable asking for help when you need it?

3. What you can offer… • Compassion • Listening • Non- Judgmental Attitude • Christ’s love • Biblical Example: Jesus with the woman at the well

4. LIFE IS STRESSFUL!!!!!!!!!!

5. Student Stressors • Isolation and loneliness • Break-up of an intimate relationship • Unplanned pregnancy • Sexual or physical abuse or assault

6. Student Stressors • Family conflict or parental divorce • Death of a loved one • Serious illness • Academic pressure or failure

7. Statistics Average class of 25 college students with equal numbers of men/women: • 8 will have divorced parents • 3 will have a substance abuse problem • 4 will have a substance-abusing parent • 4 women will be rape or sexual abuse victims • 2 women will have an eating disorder • 1 male will be a victim of sexual abuse • 1 woman will have an unwanted pregnancy

8. Knowing your Limits… • You are not a doctor. • You are not a therapist. • You are not Jesus. • You are not responsible for the choices that others make… even if they would like for you to think that you are.

9. Referrals… • Refer to the right person. • Refer in the right way. • Refer at the right time.

10. Do you have days when you feel like this…

11. What about you…. • Do you feel comfortable asking for help when you need it? • Do you know where to get help? • New Vision leader • Campus Minister • Counseling Staff

12. Counseling Staff • Director of Counseling Services • Glenda K. Hill Nanna, MA/LPC • 863-7194 gnanna@csuniv.edu • Post-Doctoral Supervisee (Part-time) • Dr. Jill Ilagan, PsyD. • 863-8010 jilagan@csuniv.edu • Ms. Anna Flores, Intern (Part-time) • Master’s Program, Webster University,

13. Counseling Staff • Part-time Staff • Ms. Barbara Mead, M.Ed., LPC • 863-8008/ 8009 • Mr. Jay White, MA, LPC • 863-8010

14. Dolphin Stress Test • This is a quick, simple test to identify whether your stress level is in the acceptable range. • You should see two identical dolphins, if you notice anything other than slight color differences, then your stress level is too high and you need some stress management training.

15. Dolphin Stress Test

16. CuttingSex /Pregnancy Abuse Suicide Some Counseling Concerns

17. People who self-mutilate may cut or bite or scratch or pull out their hair. It is thought to be a stress reaction or poor coping skill and may have some addictive component.They generally are not suicidal, but they do cause injury and can accidentally die. General Guidelines: Cutting

18. General Guidelines: Sex/ Pregnancy Refer to Crisis Pregnancy Center or PAR (People against Rape).Encourage the young person to talk to their parents about the situation.

19. Counselors are mandated to report all cases of suspected child and/or elder abuse.Churches have been held liable for not protecting children.You do not want to hold that information. General Guidelines: Abuse

20. General Guidelines: Suicide Let’s look at some facts about suicide and how you can help!

21. Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death on university campuses! (Accidents are #1). SUICIDE FACTS

22. Let’s Play…. MYTHBUSTERS Are the following statements True or False?

23. People who talk about or threaten suicide rarely commit suicide.

24. FALSE People who are thinking about hurting themselves often times make statements or threats about suicide.

25. Approximately one young person under the age of 25 dies from suicide every 117 minutes in the U.S.

26. TRUE By the time you enjoy a football game or see a movie a young person is lost to the tragedy of suicide.

27. Talking to a person about his or her suicidal feelings may cause them to commit suicide.

28. FALSE Talking to a person about these feelings can only help if done in a compassionate and knowledgeable manner.

29. People who are contemplating suicide almost always indicate their intentions to someone beforehand.

30. TRUE In almost 70% of suicides, the person shared his/her thoughts or intentions with a friend, teacher, or other important person in their life before making a suicide attempt.

31. ONE MILLION youth attempted suicide in the year 2000. SUICIDE FACTS That averages to 112 attempts each minute!

32. Over 100 young people successfully complete suicide each week in the U. S. SUICIDE FACTS

33. Over 5,000 young people die from suicide each year. SUICIDE FACTS

34. White males make up the majority of completed suicides. SUICIDE FACTS

35. Suicide rates among Black youths in the South has increased by 214% between 1980-1995. SUICIDE FACTS

36. Approximately 1088 college students per year (which is 1/2 the rate of non students). SUICIDE FACTS

37. Factors that can heighten the risk of suicidal ideation • Low self-esteem • Depression • Changes in school or social status • Students who have been or are being abused, molested, or neglected • Abusers of drugs or alcohol • Perfectionists • Gay and Lesbian students • Learning disabled students • Loners

38. How do I help? LIFE L– Listen to your friend without judgment and without minimizing their pain. I – Insist on Honesty. If they have formulated a plan then they are in serious trouble and immediate help is needed.

39. How do I help? LIFE F – Feelings, share them. Share your feelings with your friend as well. (i.e. scared, worried, sad if they were to die…). E – Extend a Helping Hand. Go with your friend to get help. Never promise not to tell.

40. Things to avoid: • Do not ignore the warning signs • Do not refuse to talk about suicide • Don’t promise to maintain confidentiality; treat a student’s disclosure as a statement of needing help.

41. Things to avoid: • Do not react with disapproval or repulsion • Do not offer false reassurances like “Everything will be all right” or comments like “you have a great life and you should be thankful for…” • Do not abandon your friend after you get help.

42. How Therapists Assess Risk • Does the student have a plan? • Does the student have the means? • Does the student have the intent? • Does the student know anyone who has completed suicide? IF THE ANSWER IS “YES” TO ANY OF THE ABOVE, STUDENT IS AT HIGHER RISK.

43. Referrals for Counseling: • Have a Humble Attitude • Ask Good Questions • Express Concern • Give Hope • Respect their right to confidentiality.

44. What if the person refuses help? • Except in emergencies, the option must be left open for the student to accept or refuse counseling.

45. What if it is an emergency? • A situation in which someone’s life is in immediate danger (i.e. risk of violence or threat of suicide). • Notify your ministry leader so that he/she can notify the site leadership and they can take appropriate action and notify authorities if so warranted.

46. Counseling Services • Most churches have some sort of pastoral counseling ministry. • Most areas have community mental health centers that offer reduced cost services. • Focus on the Family maintains a list of Christian counselors and offers a one-time counseling phone call at no charge at 1-800- A FAMILY.

47. Counseling Information • Additional information and resources are available on the Counseling Services Web Page at www.csuniv.edu/counseling

48. Body Image Week You can win a FREE IPOD! • Go online and register at www.csuniv.edu/counseling. • Attend Shrek on Tuesday night at 7pm in the Brewer Center Lounge • Attend a Body Image Student Forum Thursday night at 6pm in the Nursing Auditorium.

49. National Alcohol Screening • Thursday April 12, 2007 MORE DETAILS TO FOLLOW!

50. National Alcohol Screening