Emotional and Social Development, Ages 1-3

1. Emotional and Social Development, Ages 1-3 • Welcome back! April 21, 2014 • Today’s Agenda: • Emotional and Social Development between ages 1 and 3 • Bell ringer • Video: Toddler Self Esteem • Notes: Emotional and Social Development

2. Emotional patterns • Emotional development goes in __________ throughout a child’s development. • Periods of negativism, rebellion, happiness, calmness, stability. • Generally around certain ages, though all are different. These are general guidelines. • ______________________________

3. 18 months • _______________ – think only about their own needs and wants, and not those of others. • Up until now, all needs have been met _______ ___________. Starts to change around this age. • Favorite word: “______!”

4. Negativism • Doing the _____________ of what others want • Normal for a toddler • They want ____________ – say no because want to decide for themselves • They are _____________ – bodies can’t always do what they want, language skills aren’t developed enough to express what they want, so very frustrated! Ends up as “No!”

5. Battle of wills • Parents fight with child and it goes back and forth – no one gives in • Strategies to help prevent this: • Put things away you don’t want touched • ______________ guidance • Give ____________ – give them some control • _____________the child – attention off the issue • Encourage ___________ – help them learn to say what they want or feel

6. 2 years (Terrible?) • More emotionally stable – speech and motor skills have ____________ = less frustration • ____________ more and can wait a bit longer for __________ to be met • Express love and affection ________ • Seek ________________________ • Easier to ____________ with • Less _____________________

7. 2 ½ years • Learning so much, often ____________ • Comprehension and desires exceed their _______________________ – blocks get knocked over • Know what they want to say – not always _________________ by adults • Strongly want _______________ – do not want to conform

8. 2 ½ continued • Independence and immaturity clash • At this age, are stubborn, demanding, and domineering • Moods change _____________: from screaming to loving in no time • Need _______________! Same routines, carried out the same way, everyday. Way of coping with confusing world.

9. Giving Choices • How would you deal with the below situations in offering this child a choice: • Luis wants to wear a new top while working in the garden • John wants to eat candy for breakfast • Bobby wants the toy that Matt is using • Katrina wants to take a plastic toy with her to bed

10. 3 year old • Generally _________ and cooperative • Learning to be ______________ • More physical ______________ – less frustration • More willing to take _____________ • Will change behavior to get __________ – which they want • Like to talk and better are at it • Can be reasoned with and controlled with words

11. 3 ½ years • Become very ________________ • ______________ are common • Afraid of the dark, lions and tigers, monsters, strangers, or loud noises • May start new habits of _______________: thumb sucking, nail biting of nose picking to release tension • Try to ensure security by ______________ ________________

12. Compare/Contrast • What are the different ways a 2 year old and a 3 year old might respond to these situations? • An adult who wants to help the child with everything • Starting a new child care situation • Visiting a parents workplace

13. Specific emotions • __________ – way of reacting to frustration • Expression changes over this stage: • 18 months – kick and scream • 3 years – use words • Target of anger • 18 months – no specific person or object • 3 years – likely to aim at person or object they see as responsible for causing frustration

14. Anger • More frequent in ______________________ children • Children who haven't learned self-control • Children whose parents are overly ____________ • Whose parents are _________________ • Help them by: • Making sure demands are limited and reasonable • Respond in a controlled way

15. Fear • Have particular fears at each age • 1 year old: high places, strangers, loud noises • 3 year old: dark, animals and storms • Can be useful: keep them away from danger • Others will be overcome with development

16. Separation Anxiety • Fear of being away from parents or caregivers • Hard on parents – feel guilty leaving • Is a stage they will go through and grow out of

17. Coping with separation anxiety • Parents can: • Offer support and understanding • Encourage child to talk and fears and listen to them • Sometimes accept it and avoid it for awhile, will go away • Read books together about a child who experiences fear • Make unfamiliar situations more secure – talk about it or go one time to be familiar – know what to expect

18. Jealousy • Shows up sometime in the ________ year • Parents – may resent affection shown between • Siblings – _____________ develops • New baby • Changes in routine or family dynamics • Make sure all children know they are _________ • Try to have time with each child ____________ • Try not to _____________ children to each other

19. Love and affection • Relationships that children have with others in these years form the basis of their capacity for _________ and affection _________ in life. • Young children must learn to love • 1st – love of those who satisfy their needs • Then grows to siblings, pets, and people outside of their home • Relationship should be strong but not smothering

20. Individual Differences • Remember! Each child is _____________! • Develop ______________ in different ways • Partly due to ______________ – opportunities • Partly due to how many ______________ • Partly due to _______________ (Intense, perceptive?) • Knowing child’s temperament can help in dealing with ________________ (perceptive).

21. Developing positive self-concept • Self concept – how they _________________ • Different from self-esteem • Formed in response to actions, attitudes and comments from _____________ • Believe what others _______ about them, which leads to how they behave – “good”, “bad” • Help them by letting them ________________

22. Signs of healthy emotional relationship between parent and child • Child seeks approval and praise from ________ • Child turns to parents for __________and help • Child tells parents about significant events so they share in joy or sorrow • Child accepts limits and discipline without unusual _______________

23. Review • Emotional roller coaster – normal! • Many emotions are developing – know them, how to cope with them, and how to help them through these • Positive self concept • Study guide

24. Let’s Discuss • Annie (2 years old) is in the toy store with her father. From the way she is acting, he thinks she was about to have a temper tantrum. What might he do to prevent it? How should he handle the tantrum is she has one? • What can caregivers/parents do to help a child develop a positive self-concept?