Enneagram

1. Enneagram

2. Which of the following slides describe you best? • Select the slide that has the most number of bullet points that you resonate with.

3. 1 • Grew up with parents who expected the best - grades always were not good enough—“good boy/ good girl” • Principled and strong • Strong need to be right and to do the right thing • Tendency to correct errors - of self and of others • Voice inside the mind constantly challenging—inner critic • Fears being condemned—in the process has a tendency to condemn others • Others may see you as judgmental • Difficulty in experiencing pleasure or having fun • Anger

4. 2 • Generous, brings out best in others • Charming, caring, loving • Relationship is central • Everything is perceived through relationships • “I am needed”, “They can’t do without me” • Need induces them to love others in order to be loved • Finds it difficult to express own need • May be dependent on the response or need of the other

5. 3 • Eager, responsible, goal-oriented, persistent, organized • “Doing rather than being” • “Just do it” • Focuses on tasks • “One must succeed at all costs” • Highly competitive • High need to be accepted, fears rejection • Looking good is important - image • Need to have others see that they can make things happen—efficient

6. 4 • Unique • “Why can’t I have the same as everyone else?” • Sensitive, refined, profound • Moody, difficult to please • Feelings are paramount • In touch with feelings of others - empathic • Intense • Attached to the past • Sense of abandonment • Aesthetics - sense of beauty • Indulges in fantasy

7. 5 • Unquenchable taste for knowledge • Thinking instead of doing • Wise, perceptive, analytic, respectful • Need to analyze, to understand the world • Detached - isolation mechanism - from feelings • Minimalist - reduce needs to basic • Able to compartmentalized life • Avoids intrusion - privacy - withdrawn • Seen as cold, arrogant, intellectual

8. 6 • Dutiful, clever, committed, builder of coalition • Loyal to authority, structures, organizations • Strong sense of Fear • Vigilance, safety • Complains, cross-examines • Prepares for battle • “Devil’s advocate” • “Be prepared”, “Readiness is all” • Fears being abandoned

9. 7 • Charming • Playful • Explores the world • Gluttony • Difficulty with commitment—I don’t want limits • Wants variety • Fascination - many interests • Able to shift mind and interests • Active • Avoids pain, gets bored easily

10. 8 • Concerned with strength • Being in power, in charge • Self reliant - independent • Doesn’t know when to stop - Lust • My way or no way • Likes to confront • Protective of the weak • Justice • Direct to the point, dominant, domineering

11. 9 • Empathic, available, steady, reliable • Ambivalent, too accommodating, apathetic, resistant to change • “Let it be”, “Don’t rock the boat” • Harmonizing • Calm, simple, comfy, sometimes disheveled and unkempt • Likes repetitive tasks • Wanting to belong • Open to others - accepting • Need for union - ignoring reality

12. 3 ENNEAGRAM

13. Enneagram “Can help understand fears and desires, strengths And weaknesses, defenses and anxieties, how we react to frustration and disappointment—and, more positively, what our truest capacities and greatest strengths are so that we can build on those rather than on misjudgments and illusions.”

14. 3 Enneagram Comes from the Greek words ennea, meaning “nine” and gram, meaning “something drawn or written”.

15. Enneagram A system that describes nine different personality types and how they interact with each other. Each type is defined by an emotional HABIT, a characteristic pattern of THOUGHT, and a style of RELATING TO OTHERS, which together produces a DISTINCT POINT OF VIEW.

16. Enneagram Uses a revered ethical framework or model called VICE to VIRTUE transformation. VICE – a protective shield in early life to cushion emotional discomfort; served a useful purpose; an emotional survival strategy But once we understand this childhood basis as our defensive core, we can develop ways to transform the VICE into its opposite VIRTUE VICE VIRTUE

17. Enneagram Process: Uncover your characteristic survival strategy (VICE) Cultivate the opposite constructive way of being (VIRTUE)

18. Enneagram • self-understanding • self awareness • self-transcendence • self-transformation

19. Circle of Personality Types with the Centers GUT 9 8 1 7 2 6 3 HEART HEAD 5 4

20. CENTERS BODY INSTINCT SENSES EMOTIONAL REACTION GROUP HEAD Brain Put things Sight Fear Central Nervous together System HEART Hypothalamus Relationships Taste Shame Heart Lungs GUT Alimentary Energy Hearing Anger conservation Smelling Survival

21. LIFE QUESTIONS MOVEMENTS HEAD Where am I? Inner world to What will I gain From it? Outer world HEART Who am I with? Outer reality to inner reality GUT Who am I? From past to present How will it help me move in life? Where do I stand?

22. CENTER HEAD HEART GUT PERSONALITY TYPE FIVE (I) SIX SEVEN (E) TWO (E) THREE FOUR (I) ONE (I) NINE EIGHT (E) CHARACTERISTICS Escapes fear by withdrawing and not being involved Alternates between avoiding and confronting fear Escapes fear through plans and diversions Over relates with people Denies own feelings Assumes image and role from society Relates to self-image Keeps cold anger within Denies own anger Expresses hot anger to others

23. 3 The Enneagram of Personality Types Peacemaker 9 The Boss 8 1 The Reformer The Generalist 7 2 The Helper The Loyalist 6 3 The Motivator The Thinker 5 4 The Artist

24. 3 The Enneagram of Personality Statements I am Peaceful 9 I am Strong 8 1 I am Perfect I am Happy 7 2 I am Caring I am Loyal 6 3 I am Successful I am Knowledgeable 5 4 I am Special

25. 3 The Enneagram of Basic Desires To Be In Harmony 9 To Be Strong 8 1 To Be Right To Be Joyful; Satisfied 7 2 To Be Loved To Have Security 6 3 To Be Accepted To Understand the 5 4 To Understand The Self Environment

26. 3 The Enneagram of Basic Fears Of Separation/Conflict 9 Of Being Weak 8 1 Of Being Imperfect Of Being Deprived 7 2 Of Own Needs Of Being Abandoned 6 3 Of Failure/Of Being Rejected Of Being Overwhelmed 5 4 Of Being Ordinary

27. Gifts of Each Personality Type 6 Responsible, dependable, trustworthy Loyal to what is lawful 7 Optimitist, enthusiastic Happy - go - lucky Always a “silver - lining” 8 Leader, magnanimous, empowering Challenge taker 9 Peace maker Mediator 1 Discerner Reformer 2 Emphatizer/Symphatizer Generous Compassionate 3 Performer, achiever, efficient Dedicated to work Concerned with productivity 4 Sensitive, tragic romantic Creative with a new way of looking at life Looks at life through art 5 Wise, intelligent, observer, thinker Able to make meaning out of experiences Make the misunderstood understood understandable

29. Life Story/Childhood History Negative to Father High standards of excellence “Good boy/girl” Important adult who was highly critical Ambivalent to Father Lived in the shadow of somebody important Cherished as helpful, attentive, caring Made responsible beyond their years Positive to Mother Put up a front Parents valued achievement - “good grades prove your worth” Negative to Both Parents Sense of “trip - drama” World as a child disrupted by a devastating event -”where did it go wrong?” Ambivalent to Both Parents Authoritarian mothers Intrusive adult - felt need for space ignored Feel that they have not been loved enough Positive to Father Experienced crisis of faith in authority Memories of warmth prematurely cut - off Violation of trust Negative to Mother Experience of happiness early in life,but prematurely cut-off World is scary and painful - I’ll just play Ambivalent to Mother Adult at an early age Early source of difficulty Saw injustice at an early age 9 Positive to Both Parents Family members not emotionally close to one another but in good terms with one another Learned to repress own longings for the sake of avoiding conflict

30. LIFE STATEMENT SELF-CONCEPT MOTIVES Life is being… I am … To/To be... 1 Perfect 2 Needed 3 Successful 4 Unique 5 Knowledgeable 6 Responsible 7 Joyful 8 Content 9 Peaceful Right Generous Efficient Different Wise Faithful Fun Powerful Peaceful Correct Needed/Loved Approved/Affirmed Understand the self To know/understand Approved the authority Have fun Self-reliant Have unity and harmony

31. TRAPS PASSION MANIFESTATION 1 Perfect Anger Judgmental 2 Service Pride Possessiveness Manipulative 3 Efficiency Deceit Overly competitive Basic lack of trust Vain 4 Authenticity Envy Putting others down Envious 5 Knowledge Stinginess Overly critical Cynical 6 Security Fear “Rightly obedient” 7 Idealism Over-Indulgence Gluttony Insensitivity 8 Power Arrogance Sarcasm Verbal put-down 9 Self-abasement Laziness Over-patience Lack of involvement

32. AVOIDANCE EGO-FIXATION PRIDE (Idealized Image) I am... 1 Anger Resentment Hardworking 2 Need Flattery Helpful 3 Failure Vanity Successful 4 Ordinariness Melancholy Unique 5 Emptiness Stinginess Knowing 6 Deviance Cowardice Loyal 7 Pain Planning Nice 8 Weakness Vengeance Powerful 9 Conflict Indolence Okay

33. FACIAL EXPRESSION Sharpness of features Concerned look Youthful looking Casual/Sad look Hard posty look Hyper-alert/ Scanning look PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Neat and well-srubbed Tightness in the mouth or jaw Usually thin Warm and attractive smile Comfortable clothing Usually a little overweight Dresses well/Stylish Try to be fit and trim Dresses with a sense of uniqueness of “drama” Uncomfortable smiles Beard for men Couldn’t care less for fashion Radiate a nervous energy Comfort rather than style SPEECH Sermonize With authority that sounds right Complimentary Flattery “Advise getting” Propagandizes Demonstrative Dramatic Lamentations Summarizes Cautions Puts limits Protected 1 2 3 4 5 6

34. FACIAL EXPRESSION Cheery, chubby look Weather-beaten face Plain/Blank look PHYSICAL APPEARANCE Smile a lot Teddy bearish but not fat Sense of style Husky side Liable to wear massive outfit Fairly relaxed and pleasant Comfortable clothing SPEECH Story-telling Talkative Humorous Entertaining Sarcastic “NO” Debunks Monotone ‘Matter-of-factly” 7 8 9

35. TYPE HEALTHY POINTS UNHEALTHY POINTS 1 Perfectionist 2Helper 3 Achiever 4 Romantic 5Observer 6 Questioner 7 Adventurer 8Asserter 9Peacemaker Ethical, fair, honest, idealistic, orderly, Productive, reliable, self-discipline Adaptable, caring, compassionate, emphatic, Generous, insightful, loving, sympathizer Confident, efficient, energetic, industrious Optimistic, practical, self-propelled Compassionate, creative, expressive, introspective, intuitive, refined, supportive, warm Analytical, objective, perceptive, persevering, self-contained, sensitive, wise Caring, dependable, loyal, practical, responsible, warm, witty Charming, confident, curious, enthusiastic, fun-loving, imaginative, spontaneous, quick Authoritative, direct, earthy, energetic, loyal, protective, self-confident Diplomatic, emphatic, generous, open-minded, patient, peaceful, pleasant, receptive Anxious, critical, controlling, dogmatic, inflexible, judgmental, overly serious, obsessive-compulsive Hysterical, indirect, manipulative, martyrlike, over-attention, over-doting, possessive Deceptive, narcissistic, overly competitive, pretentious, superficial, vain, vindictive Depressive, guilt-ridden, moody, melancholic, self-absorbed, self-conscious, stubborn Critical, cynical, distant, intellectually, arrogant, stingly, stubborn, unassertive Controlling, defensive, hypervigilant, judgmental, paranoid, rigid, self-defeating, testy, unpredictable Impulsive, manic, narcissistic, possessive, rebellious, restless, self-destructive, undisciplined, unfocused Aggressive, controlling, domineering, insensitive, rebellious, self-centered, skeptical, vengeful Apathetic, forgetful, judgmental, obsessive, passive-aggressive, spaced-out, stubborn, unassertive

36. WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM 9 1 8 2 7 AUTHENTIC SELF 6 3 4 5 looking deeply into our true identity through the perspective of the nine attributes of human nature

37. WISDOM OF THE ENNEAGRAM 9 1 8 2 7 AUTHENTIC SELF 6 3 4 5 we are not our personality fallling asleep to our true nature

38. THE ARROW THEORY 9 1 8 2 7 AUTHENTIC SELF 6 3 4 5 STRESS Point: FOLLOW the arrow’s direction SECURE Point: GO AGAINST the arrows direction

39. Arrow Theory 9 8 1 7 2 6 3 5 4

40. Arrow Theory TYPE 1 2 3 4 5 6 STRESS POINT 4: Suffer and feel misunderstood 8: Irrational anger 9: Out of touch with their feelings and operates mechanically 2: Please, charm and flatter others 7: Plan and daydream instead of action 3: Become anxious and take action defensively SECURE POINT (Against the Arrow) 7: Becomes playful, less perfectionist; relaxed 4: Able to express sadness, tears and one’s personal needs 6: More cooperative and less concerned with status 1: Become more neat and in order 8: Become assertive and involved with others 9: More relaxed, self-assured and makes decisions

41. Arrow Theory TYPE 7 8 9 STRESS POINT 1: Judgmental, pessimistic, perfectionist 5: Runs away, hides and concocts revenge 6: Becomes afraid; self-doubting and indecisive SECURE POINT (Against the Arrow) 5: Move into work and production and spends less time daydreaming 2: More playful, joyful and interested in pleasing people 3: Becomes more energetic, involved with life and successful

42. TYPE 1 2 3 4 5 6 WINGS 9: Less self-concerned, less vain and more easy-going 2: Concerned with their appearance, more sensitive to others, dramatic in their presentations and more proud 1: Lazier, have less energy, and more concerned with things being right 3: More aggressive, but aggressive seduction 2: Takes on the feelings of others 4: Dramatizes their own feelings 3: More aggressive and focuses on external accomplishments, but sabotages success in private life 5: Withdrawn and isolated 4: Into their feelings, artistic and melancholic 6: Operates intellectually, disconnected from their feelings and the emotions of others 5: Softer, quieter and more withdrawn 7: More aggressive, optimistic and relates with the world

43. TYPE 7 8 9 WINGS 6: Unsure of themselves and carries a slight nervous energy; hesitates to act 8: A sense of internal power, tougher and more aggressive 7: More Intellectual, idealistic and into planning 9: More pragmatic and acts more from the gut than the head 8: Sloppy dresser and overtly angry 1: In control of themselves and the environment, repressed anger, have sense of how things should be

44. TYPE 1 2 3 4 5 6 STRENGTHS Does the right thing and not easily swayed by external pressures Careful Sensitive to emotional levels Excellent caretakers/care-givers Goal Oriented Have an innate way of knowing how to relate to the world Highly developed artistic sense Deeply in touch with the pain and sadness in life Keen sense of style and fashion Good sense of objectivity Utilizes resources efficiently Excellent listeners Independent that they don’t seek others to take care of them Long attention span Careful and precise Focused concentration

45. TYPE 7 8 9 STRENGTHS Pleasant and very easy to get along with Imaginative brainstormers and visionaries Positive approach to life What is within, so without Defenders of the weak Confronts life as it is Sees all sides of an issue Fairly generous and easy-going Does not expect something in return

46. Levels of Development For each type, there are levels of development. With this concept, a dynamic element is introduced that reflects the changing nature of the personality patterns themselves. You have probably noticed that people change constantly—sometimes they are clearer, more free, grounded, and emotionally available, while at other times they are more anxious, resistant, reactive, emotionally volatile and less free.

47. Levels of Development Understanding the Levels makes it clear that when people change states within their personality, they are shifting within the spectrum of motivations, traits, and defenses that make up their personality type.

48. On the continuum, the healthiest traits appear first, at the top, so to speak. As we move down the continuum in a spiral pattern, we progressively pass through each Level of Development marking a distinct shift in the personality's deterioration to the pure black of psychological breakdown at the bottom.

49. The continuum is comprised of nine internal Levels of Development —briefly, there are three Levels in the healthy section, three Levels in the average section, and three Levels in the unhealthy section. It may help you to think of the continuum of Levels as a photographer's gray scale which has gradations from pure white to pure black with many shades of gray in between.