Date Like a Man By: Myreah Moore and Jodie Gould

1. Date Like a Man By: Myreah Moore and Jodie Gould Group: The Jets Kimberley Vicari vicarik2@mail.montclair.edu Stephanie Vitale vitales2@mail.montclair.edu OnyekaUzonwune uzonwuneo1@mail.montclair.edu FCST 342-02

2. DATE LIKE A MAN….Chris Rock agrees…… chris rock video clip

3. Book Synopsis Do you get depressed every time a date turns out to be an AWFUL ONE? Are you devastated when you don't get "the call" from a guy you like? Do you constantly check your dates out for marriage potential? Chances are you're taking dating way too seriously. According to Myreah Moore -- "America's Dating Coach" -- women need to start dating to HAVE FUN!!!!!, which is what men have been doing for ages!

4. Fatal Attraction Clip Women can sometimes be a little crazy when it comes to men….

5. Summary of the Book In this book, Moore says, dating is a lot like a science. And with any scientific experiment, it's trial and error. In Date Like a Man, we learn dating secrets from men (the masters of dating…or so she claims) This book is a mini personal training program that will boost your dating prospects -- and increase your chances of finding a soul mate. Clear, quirky, and empowering, Date Like a Man makes the manhunt FUN -- the way it should be. Even if you think you're a dating expert (which your probably not!!), you'll devour this manual!!

6. Men and Woman Dating Differences

7. main points of book DATE LIKE A MAN -the new theories on surviving and thriving in today's DATING world: Dating should be fun! Don’t stress so much about Dating THINK LIKE A MAN Don’t be so needy Don’t date to get married! Don’t make it all about the man!!

8. Some Quotes from the book • pg. 14, “If we find one thing wrong with another woman, if she doesn’t have the perfect nose, or she’s not at the perfect weight, we say, “She’s not so hot!” And we’re just as hard, or harder, on ourselves.” • “Men give each other more encouragement and support. Their pal might weigh 250 pounds or be coyote ugly, and their buddies will tell him he’s a prize (whether they believe it or not).

10. Kelly, K. & Levy, K. (2009). Sex Differences in Jealousy: A Contribution From Attachment Theory. Psychological Science . DATA This chart shows some gender differences in the relationship area between men and women. Women seem to be less secure and dismissing when it comes to their attachment style.

11. Data from Real People DATA VIDEO CLIP Only show (0-1:45)

12. DATA Moore used interviews as a way to collect her data. She interviewed 200 NYC men and women and from their gathered data on the gender differences in data. Moore seems to know what she is talking about but she didn’t go to school for or get her masters in “DATING”, so her information lacks credibility. Another limitation to her “advice” is the data was only based on people in NYC which doesn’t make it national.

13. Research What we are comparing….. Gender Differences in Dating and Relationships and Attachment. What the sexes want from dating and relationships.

14. Research Researchers found many gender differences in dating and relationships. In the article, “What Valentine Announcements Reveal about the Romantic Emotions of Men and Women”, romantic emotions of men and women were investigated by analyzing the content of 300 Valentine’s Day announcements. The emotions studied were love, praise, commitment, and fidelity, as expressed by dating and married individuals. Women emphasized love and fidelity relatively more than men did; men emphasized praise and commitment relatively more than women did. Relationship status influenced the gender differences; most interesting is that dating men expressed commitment, but not fidelity. Social-cultural and evolutionary perspectives are considered in the interpretation of the findings. (Quintero Gonzalez & Koestner, 2006)

15. Research This article does support Moore’s thoughts in her book. She stresses how men and women want different things. Women want more romance and men date for fun. Gonzalez & Koestner, state how women emphasized love and fidelity relatively more than men did; men emphasized praise and commitment relatively more than women did.

16. Research • Article: “Humor styles and relationship satisfaction in dating couples: Perceived versus self-reported humor styles as predictors of satisfaction.” • Authors: Cann, Arnie/ Davis, Heather B./ Zapata, Christine L. • This article discusses a study based on the role humor has in relationships. The article is relevant to “Date Like A Man” because throughout the book, author Myreah Moore discusses what woman look for in men, and humor is mentioned. In an exercise done by one of Myreah’s clients, they had to make a list of “wants” and“needs” for a man. Out of 35 “wants,” Myreah’s client wrote “humorous” towards the top of her list at number 4!

17. Research • Quotes from the article… • “A good sense of humor is identified as a very highly desired quality in prospective romantic partners, and both men and women appear to share this preference (Buss 1988) • “What helps a romantic relationship last and remain satisfying over time? In studies of couples who have long-term successful marriages, humor has been consistently mentioned as one characteristic partners believe has contributed to their continued satisfaction (Carstensen, Gottman, and Levenson 1995; Lauer, Lauer, and Kerr 1990; Ziv 1988).”

18. Results/Discussion/Conclusions • This was definitely a cute, quirky book, but we are not sure how accurate it is, especially in today’s society. Women are becoming more and more powerful as time goes on. • I don’t think we necessarily fuss and obsess over dating as we used to. More and more everyday we see women, getting college educations and more. • The data in this book is a little old and is somewhat unreliable. Moore isn’t a psychologist or doctor, so what makes her know more than any one else on the topic??? • For future researchers, there is little information on gender differences in dating. Future research should focus more on the specific differences in men and women and their emotional attitudes towards dating and the opposite sex.

19. Ending Thoughts……. Women have always turned to the experts for advice about love, dating, and marriage. In High school we looked for love advice in Seventeen Magazine. Now, and probably for awhile, it will be Cosmopolitan and our friends. We’ll listen to the advice of relationship “gurus” who may NOT KNOW ANYTHING, hoping that someday, someone can explain the mystery of LOVE!! From this book and others, I think it is safe to say usually the professionals are as confused as we are. If the puzzle were ever solved, what would we have to talk about with our friends?

20. What we Learned One thing we learned from this book, BE YOURSELF, if it is meant to be it’s meant to be!!!!!

21. References Quintero Gonzalez, A., & Koestner, R. (2006). What Valentine Announcements Reveal about the Romantic Emotions of Men and Women. Sex Roles, 55(11-12), 767-773. doi:10.1007/s11199- 006- 9130-z Cann, A., Davis, H. B., & Zapata, C. L. (2011). Humor styles and relationship satisfaction in dating couples: Perceived versus self- reported humor styles as predictors of satisfaction. Humor: International Journal of Humor Research, 24(1), 1-0. doi:10.1515/HUMR.2011.001 Kelly, K. & Levy, K. (2009). Sex Differences in Jealousy: A Contribution From Attachment Theory. Psychological Science .