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Learn the difference between proactive and reactive choices, their consequences and the power of proactive language and mindset. Discover how to take control of your life by using your principles, proactive language, and human tools in action. Take responsibility, stay positive, and respond effectively in all situations.
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Habit 1 Be Proactive
Proactive vs Reactive • Reactive people make choices based on emotions, feelings, their moods and on impulse • Proactive people make choices based on principles/values
Examples of Reactive and Proactive choices • Turn to page 49-50-Read Scene 1 • What are the consequences of the Reactive choices? • What are the consequences of the Proactive choices?
Reactive Language • That’s just the way I am • I can’t • I’ll try • Others (pg 51)
Proactive Language • I’ll do it • I can do better than that • There’s got to be a way • Others listed on pg 51
Reactive people feel like • Victims • Are easily offended • Blame others • Get angry and say things they regret • Whine and complain • Wait for things to happen to them • Change only when they have to
Proactive people feel like • They are NOT easily offended • Take responsibility for their choices • Think before they act • Bounce back when something bad happens • Always find a way to make it happen • Focus on things they can do something about and not about the things they can’t
What can we control? • We can’t control everything • Our skin color • Who our parents are • How others might treat us • Weather • We can control how we respond to what happens to us
Responding to setbacks • We can turn our thinking around to respond to a negative by making it a positive • An accident • Abuse • Our home life
Becoming more Proactive • Take responsibility for your life • Have a CAN-DO attitude
Just Push Pause • When you have a situation you want to respond in some way think… • Just Push Pause • Use your 4 tools in your toolbox • Self- awareness-stand apart from myself and look objectively • Conscience-I listen to my inner voice to know what is right and wrong • Imagination-I can envision new possibilities • Willpower- I have the power to choose
Human tools in action • Use your principles to help make choices • Use your proactive language • Turn negatives into positives • Have a can-do attitude • Use the tools to respond