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Shaadi : Life Time Investment

Shaadi : Life Time Investment. Outline. Marriage: A Crisis?. Family Crisis. in Western Society. (Canadian census 2001). Marriage : A Crisis?. Married couple with children= 37.4% Married couple without children = 33.1% Family break down = 50%. Divorce Rate. In the USA.

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Shaadi : Life Time Investment

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  1. Shaadi: Life Time Investment

  2. Outline

  3. Marriage: A Crisis?

  4. Family Crisis in Western Society (Canadian census 2001) Marriage : A Crisis? Married couple with children= 37.4% Married couple without children = 33.1% Family break down = 50%

  5. Divorce Rate In the USA (Divorce Magazine) Marriage : A Crisis? Every two marriages, there is one divorce 2.04 million males are single parents. 9.68 million females are single parents. 28% parents live with one parent.

  6. Impact on Muslim Societies (Dr . Illyas Ba-Yunus, Professor Sociology, State University of New york) Marriage : A Crisis ? Divorce rate on rise: California: 37% Georgia: 29% Turkey + Egypt: 10% Lack of reference points for second generation and younger families.

  7. Marriage In Islam A Life time Investment

  8. NIKAAH A form of Ibadah in Islam

  9. NIKAAH • Rasulullah(saw) has referred to it as “half of Deen”. Staus of Marriage In Islam

  10. Social Obligation Islam considers marriage a social obligation, an act which is greatly admired by Allah. Status of Marriage In Islam

  11. Natural Relationship • Nikaah - is the (only) natural relationship between man and woman. Status of Marriage In Islam

  12. In the Light of Qur’an: O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer. [An-Nisa: 1] Status of Marriage In Islam

  13. In the Light of Qur’an: And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants. And it was not for a messenger to come with a sign except by permission of Allah . For every term is a decree. [Ar-Raad, 13:38] Status of Marriage In Islam

  14. In the Light of Qur’an: Who will inherit me and inherit from the family of Jacob. And make him, my Lord, pleasing [to You].” Verse 6: Surah maryam Status of Marriage In Islam

  15. Pre-Islamic Arabia Marriage in Islam • Family status • No age barrier • Variations in Nikaah: • Badal: Exchanging wives • Before birth • Shighar: Exchanging sisters and daughters in marriage so no dowry or mehr • Maqaat: Marrying step mother

  16. Foundation of Marriage in Islam

  17. Signs For People who give thought Foundation of Marriage in Islam And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought. Al-Rum: 21

  18. Garments For Each other Foundation of Marriage in Islam They are clothing for you and you are clothing for them. Al-Baqarah: 187

  19. Of Marriage Advantages

  20. Faith Preservation of Advantages of Marriage ‘’When Allah grants one a righteous wife, He has helped him (by that) to preserve half of his religion. Let him then fear and revere Allah in regard to the other half.” (At-Tabarani)

  21. Preservation of Chastity Advantages of Marriage Abdullah bin Mas'ud(RA) reported that Allah's Messenger (SAW) said to us: 0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire. (Muslim)

  22. Enjoying Love Mercy Security Advantages of Marriage Al-Baqarah: 187

  23. Benefits of Marriage for society

  24. Human Race Preservation of Benefits of Marriage for society

  25. Preservation of Kinship Ties Benefits of Marriage for society

  26. Safeguarding Society from Moral Degradation Benefits of Marriage for society

  27. Establishing Family Environment Benefits of Marriage for society

  28. Increasing number of MUSLIMS Benefits of Marriage for society

  29. For Muslim Marriage Essentials

  30. Commitment Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  31. Contentment Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  32. Compromise Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  33. Mutual Caring Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  34. Practice Communication Skills Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  35. Excellent Manners Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  36. Learning to Empathize Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  37. Being SINCERE Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  38. LOVE Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  39. Forgiveness Essentials for Muslim Marriage

  40. Spouse Selection

  41. (Bukhari/ Muslim) Spouse selection “Women are married for four qualities, some are married for wealth, some for the family(lineage) status, some for beauty and some for the Deen(piety). Marry a woman for her Deen and you shall behappy/successful.”

  42. Spouse selection “If a man comes to you seeking marriage, and you are satisfied with his din and character, marry him- lest a fitnah and great destruction become rampant on the earth.” (Tirmadhi)

  43. Where And how do you select? Spouse Selection

  44. Pre-Wedding Islamic Principles

  45. To Do’s 1. Let family check out for you and priority is piety. Do Istikhara. See each other before marriage Steps to Islamic Principles Pre-Wedding Islamic Principles

  46. To Do’s 4. Significance of Kuff 5. To take members of one`s family to propose 6. To keep making dua to Allah to guide one and to give one the correct partner 7. The proposal should be submitted to the Wali (guardian) of the girl. Steps to Islamic Principles Pre-Wedding Islamic Principles

  47. Woman’s Wali • ‘A Marriage Contract is not valid without a Wali.’ (Abu Dawood) • Father, grandfather, son, brother, Uncle etc. Steps to Islamic Principles ‘For, indeed, it is an adulteress who gives herself in marriage (without her wali’s consent).’ (IbnMajah)

  48. What one is NOT ALLOWED Steps to Islamic Principles To date and court the woman before Nikaah. To phone each other. To send a proposal to a divorcee/widow during her iddat. To submit a proposal when someone else has already proposed to the same woman. Rasulullah (saw) has stopped us from doing this.

  49. Compulsory Components Of Nikah Steps to Islamic Principles Presence of Wali Ejab O Qabool KhutbaNikaah Mehr

  50. The Prophet’s Model • HazratKhadija and Prophet Mohammad SAW • She was 40, he was 25 • First Muslim to accept Islam • Devoted and loving wife • Always stood by the Prophet in moments of trial and difficulty • HazratAaisha and Prophet Mohammad SAW • Got married at a young age • Examples of love and affection • Source of pleasure, joy and comfort to her husband • Vast treasure of Islamic knowledge and a teacher of scholars and experts Examples of Some Marriages

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