Presentation to Primary School SEAL Co-ordinators Title (if relevant) Workshop 1: Getting On and Falling Out/Say No to B

1. Presentation to Primary School SEAL Co-ordinators Title (if relevant) Workshop 1: Getting On and Falling Out/Say No to Bullying Presented by Children’s Services SEAL Team

2. THEME 2 Getting on and falling out

3. Assembly - Friendship Friendship Token

4. Discord – “I will be your friend”

5. This theme focuses on developing children's knowledge, understanding and skills in three key social and emotional aspects of learning: Managing feelings (with a focus on anger) Empathy Social skills Getting on and Falling out

6. Getting on and Falling out Notice and celebrate children (and adults) who are: • Working co-operatively to help a group • Being a really good friend • Keeping calm and overcoming feelings of anger • Solving a difficult problem with a friend

7. Getting on and Falling out The theme is structured around the following key strands: • Friendship • Working together in groups/co-operation • Seeing things from another point of view • Understanding and managing feelings- anger • Resolving conflict

8. Foundation Stage – key vocabulary Feelings Happy Scared/Worried Angry/Cross Comfortable/Uncomfortable Calm Down Fair Belong

9. Early Foundation Stage Learning Opportunities Circle games and Rounds: Co-operation Games, Name Games and Activities, Rounds • Co-operation • Friendship • Understanding feelings • Resolving conflict Activity • Puzzle game: drawing: puppet show:

10. Later Foundation Stage Learning Opportunities Circle games and Rounds: Co-operation Games, all change Games file • Conflict resolution • Co-operation • Friendship • Managing feelings Activity • Story: puzzle game: clapping game:

11. Photocards

12. Feeling Fans

13. Resources – Foundation stage Poster: Feelings detective Feeling Fans Feelings identikit Music for different moods (CDROM) Photocards: angry/conflict/friendship

14. Key vocabulary – Year 1 and 2 compliment friend fall out trigger angry peaceful co-operation conflict make up problem solving apologise point of view solution

15. Learning opportunities Years 1 Circle games: where are you? sharks, the hello and welcome game, keeper, rounds • Friendship and working together • Listening well • Friendship, getting angry and falling out • Friendship and making up • Activity - Wanted-a friend. Falling out and making up. Dino+Dot • Story - (falling out and making up)

16. Poster – Are we ready for circle time Feelings detective Peaceful problem solving Working together self-review checklists Emotional barometer Ways to calm down Music for different moods (CDROM) Photocards – angry/conflict/friendship

17. Learning opportunities Year 2 Circle Games Thank you: back to back: free fall: rounds: • Friendships and compliments • Seeing another point of view • Managing anger • Working together • Activity – What can you see? Point of view (role play). Make a game

18. Resources – Year 2 Poster – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings detective Peaceful problem solving Working together self-review checklists Emotional barometer Ways to calm down Photocards – angry/conflict Fireworks picture

19. Friendship • I can play with other children and say sorry when I’ve been unkind • I can make someone feel good by giving them a compliment • I can be a good listener and tell you lots of ways to give friendship tokens

20. Key vocabulary – Years 3 and 4 resolve a conflict leader reporter scribe timekeeper co-operation anger win-win solution “losing it”

21. Learning opportunities - Year 3 Circle games: The tangled web, co-operation jigsaws, round • Revisiting the skills of friendship • Making up • Revisiting anger • Activity : • Co-operation puzzles: seeing another point of view: Rap (Rap connected)

22. Resources – Year 3 Posters – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings detective Peaceful problem-solving Working together self-review checklists Photocards – friendship/friendly Fireworks picture Emotional barometer

23. Learning opportunities Circle Games and rounds Statues: the firework model: Year 4 • Key qualities in a friend • Understanding anger • Working together • Activity – Poems (Literacy- Best friends. Since Hanna moved away.)

24. Resources – Year 4 Posters – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings detective Peaceful problem-solving Working together self-review checklists Photocards – friendship angry conflict Fireworks picture Emotional barometer Ways to calm down Working together, what’s the problem? Picture (CDROM)

25. Resolving conflict • I know how to make up with a friend when we have fallen out • I can use peaceful problem solving to sort out difficulties • I can say and do things that are likely to make a difficult situation better

26. Working together/co-operation • I can work in a group with other children • I can discuss in a group how well we are working together • I can explain to people why I agree/don’t agree with them

27. Understanding and managing feelings - Anger I know when I am starting to feel angry (triggers) I know how our bodies change when we start to get angry I know some ways to calm down

28. Key vocabulary – Years 5 + 6 Short-term/long-term consequences ‘I message’ prejudice ‘reframing a situation’ responsibility

29. Resources Year 5 Posters – Are we ready for circle time?, Feelings Detective, Peaceful problem solving Photocards – conflict Emotional barometer Working together self-review checklists Fireworks picture Ways to calm down

30. Learning opportunities Year 5 Circle games: Thunderstorm, Feeling lines, Rounds Friends magazine challenge. Levels of friendship Working together in groups Managing conflict Making up Revisiting anger Taking responsibility

31. Learning opportunities Year 6 Circle games: Thunderstorm, Feeling lines, Rounds • Working in groups • Conflict resolution • Revisiting anger • Activity - Difference–a barrier to friendship? Using “I” messages. Standing in my shoes. Reframing situations

32. Learning opportunities – Year 6 Posters – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings Detective, Peaceful problem solving Working together self-review checklists Fireworks picture Ways to calm down Feelings, thoughts and behaviour

33. Seeing things from another point of view – developing empathy

34. Staff activities • Focus on working together • Giving and receiving compliments • Conflict management • Exploring anger • Working together as a group

35. Family activities

36. Key ideas • It is important to understand the thoughts and feelings of other people • It is important to recognise when your child is getting worked up • It is important to try and keep calm when your child is getting worked up • Listening to your child is important • Children can be taught to solve their own problems peacefully

37. Empathy?

38. What do you think he is thinking and feeling?

39. What would you say?

40. Children learn by watching and listening!

41. One of our most important responsibilities as parents is to listen to our children, hearing not only the words, but the feelings behind the words…...

42. Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry, with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - this is not easy.. Aristotle It is important to use your thinking brain when you are angry! Laura Aged 8

43. What annoys you?

45. Recap on key ideas • It is important to understand the thoughts and feelings of other people • It is important to recognise when your child is getting worked up • It is important to try and keep calm when your child is getting worked up • Listening to your child is important • Children can be taught to solve their own problems peacefully

46. Ideas to try out • Use your good listening skills • Help your child to practice their calming down approaches (when your child is calm) • Practice Peaceful Problem Solving with your child

47. Relaxation