Violence

1. Violence

2. Depression- mental disorder that involves both physical and psychological symptoms • Often left untreated- believe it is just normal sadness, a stage, or weakness • Symptoms • Sad • Loss of interest in activities • Change in appetite/weight • sleep/oversleeping • Loss of energy • Feeling worthless • Thoughts of suicide • Most teens experience these symptoms occasionally, but if more than a few weeks seek help.

3. Other signs to look for • Absent or poor performance in school • Talk/try to run away • Bored/Sulk • Alcohol/substance abuse • Very sensitive to rejection or failure • Reckless behavior

4. Suicide- intentional taking of one’s own life • 3rd leading cause of death for ages 10-19 (about 2,000 a year) • recent suicide data for high school students • 19% seriously consider it • 15% made plans to attempt it • 9% attempted it

5. Females more likely to attempt suicide, males 5 times more likely to commit it • Gay, lesbian, bisexual teens are more likely to consider it • If you suspect someone has a problem, ask them, show them you care, should always be taken seriously • get professional help immediately (police/hospital) • refer to a counselor • inform parents or guardians

6. Signs of Suicide • Behavioral Messages • previous attempts • giving away possessions • buy a gun • putting affairs in order • plan a funeral • make a will • composing a suicide note • sudden recovery from depression

7. Verbal Messages • I’m going to kill myself • I wish I were dead • My family is better off without me • No ones cares • No one needs me • I can’t go on • You’ll be sorry • You won’t have to bother me anymore • If (something) does/doesn’t happen I will kill myself

8. Self-Mutilation- a person intentionally, relieves or responds to emotional or psychological problems by inflicting some form of physical self-harm or alteration to one’s body • An emotional response linked to a negative emotional state • feeling of relief, calmness, satisfaction following self-injury

9. Misconceptions • suicidal • seek negative attention • trying to harm themselves • Superficial Self-Mutilation- the intentional act to harm oneself that causes minor to moderate harm without the intent to die (common in adolescents) • The act • bruise, hit, cut, burn, scratch, head banging

10. Warning Signs • inappropriate dress- long sleeve/pants on a hot day • scar or wound that will not heal • explained as accidents or clumsiness • collecting items to use later (razors, matches, pins, staples)

11. Why do they do it? • focus on physical pain over emotional • express feelings of anger, frustration, guilt, alienation • feel relief, calmness, satisfaction, elation • obtain a high, gain control

12. What can you do? • ask to see injury, provide support • take the act seriously • don’t pass judgment • listen, encourage them to express feelings • contact parents/teachers, refer for help

13. Hate Crime- an act of violence committed against an individual because of their race, nationality, religion, or sexual orientation • Teen and Predators on the Internet (Twitter and Facebook) • 1 in 5 children approached by an internet predator • predators use internet for child pornography and possibly to meet child for purpose of having sex • most victims between the ages of 12 and 15 • Believe they are communicating with someone their own age, not an adult • Most victims are secretive about their internet use • Most victims receive strange phone calls, packages, or gifts from their predator who groom their victims

14. What to do? • avoid inappropriate comments, pictures, and adult themes • delete account if you have been approached or harassed • NO web-cams • never share your email, username or password

15. Bullying- ongoing pattern of harassment or abuse (verbal or physical attacks, exclusion, spreading rumors) • bullies seek power through aggression and attack vulnerable victims. They lose popularity in high school and often have a criminal record as adults • 1 in 5 kids admit to being bullied or bullying • every 7 minutes in a school setting • only 25% of students report teachers’ help • peaks in middle school • What can you do? • walk away • speak up against bullies and for those who are bullied

16. Violence at Home • Children become violent because they are exposed to it at home • either towards them or others • physical, verbal, neglect, abandonment • What to do? • report to DYFUS, police, school counselor, seek help immediately

17. Domestic Violence- attempt to maintain power and control over an intimate partner that instills fear in the victim • threats of physical, sexual, psychological, emotional, or economic abuse is an issue of power and control for the abuser • belief you should control the victim by any means necessary • Abusers don’t see harm in their behavior • typically occurs in the home • 85% of victims are women, 5X more victims than men • 65% of reported instances are physical • children who witness abuse often become abusers • abused boys become hostile/aggressive • abused girls become depressed

18. most common cause of injury to women in our society • victims start to believe they are responsible for the abuse • children are traumatized • their ability to feel safe is destroyed

19. Teen Dating Violence Facts • girls yell, slap, pinch, scratch, kick, threaten to hurt themselves • boys injure girls more severely and frequently • teens are at a higher risk of partner abuse than adults • females 16-24 are more vulnerable, 3X national average • 1 in 5 female high school students report being abused physically or sexually by dating partner, 94% current or former boyfriend/girlfriend

20. Early Warning Signs for Teen Dating Violence • Jealous and possessive, no other friends, checks up on you • Takes control, bossy, violent, scary • Pressure for sex, “If you loved me” • Abuses drugs and alcohol • “You made me do this” • History of bad relationships • People warn you about the person

21. Rape- sexual intercourse forced on a person without their permission • Date rape- occurs when someone forces another person they are dating or spending time with to have sex • violence expressed through sex, but not mainly about sex • 80%-90% not reported because of fear or embarrassment • 1 in 3 American women will be sexually assaulted • Typical victim is 16-24 year old female • Most common rapist is 25-44 year old male who plans his attack

22. Sexual Harassment • It is probably sexual harassment if the person feels uncomfortable or threatened as a result of the action. Intent does not matter. • Verbal- comments about a person’s body, jokes, pressure for dates, sexual gossip • Physical- obscene gestures, inappropriate touching • Assaultive- rape, molestation • Other- obscene graffiti, pornographic pictures • 3 Steps to Use • Step 1- tell harasser to stop, tell parents, inform a trusted staff member • Step 2- if behavior does not stop tell an administrator immediately • Step 3- keep a log of incidents in writing (date, time, place, witness)

23. some cases a woman rapes a man • Same sex rape common in prison, military settings, same sex schools • ½ the time the victim knows the rapist from work or living near them • Alcohol involved in 1 out of 3 rapes • Over 50% occur in the victim’s home, rapist breaks in or gains access (phone/repairman)

24. Rape Prevention • Set boundaries • Someone always knows where you are • Avoid risky situations • Refuse to be alone • Need a ride ask a girl • No alcohol/drugs • Warning system (whistle, scream, alarm) • Be straightforward • Make a scene • Don’t date that person again

25. Self-defense class • Stay in vehicle if it breaks down • Avoid isolated areas • Remain with a friend • Activities during daylight (NOTHING GOOD HAPPENS AFTER MIDNIGHT) • Lock doors/windows • Public transportation sit near driver, avoid young men sitting together • Appear strong, confident, secure, and aware of your surroundings

26. Rape Symptoms • Rape is a traumatic event, victims may not be able to say they were raped or may seek medical help for a different complaint • Confusion • Crying • Fear • Hostility • Nervousness • Numbness • Social withdrawal • Physical problems often present as well

27. Signs and Tests for Rape • Health care providers with take a history in a supportive and non-judgmental way • Date and time of attack • Where it occurred • What have you done since attack • Shower, change clothes, how long till arrived at hospital? • Possible pregnancy since attack? • Current medications • Gynecological history

28. Date of last menstrual period • Recent illness or injury • Complete physical exam for signs of bruises, scrapes, cuts, x-rays • Fingernail scrapings • Test clothing • Pubic hair samples • Vaginal samples or evidence of sperm or STD’s

29. Treatment • Go to the ER immediately • DO NOT change clothes, shower, douche or urinate (destroys evidence) • Address possibility pregnancy/STD’s • Care for physical/emotional trauma • Group psychotherapy with other rape survivors is most effective treatment • If you have been raped in the past, but never received proper care call your doctor

30. Complications • Posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD) • Anxiety • Depression • Flashbacks • Numbing of emotions • Nightmares • Social withdrawal

31. Myths and Facts About Rape • MYTH: Only young, attractive women • FACT: Both male/female • MYTH: Rapists are strangers • FACT: Most known by their victims • MYTH: Unfamiliar, deserted places • FACT: Most occur in home, apartment or car • MYTH: Driven by urge to have sex • FACT: Rapists are usually angry and are trying to humiliate or demonstrate their power over another person • MYTH: Usually unplanned • FACT: Rapists generally plan their attack • MYTH: Victims “ask for it” by the way they dress and act • FACT: Rapists look for the weak and vulnerable, not people who • dress or act in a certain way • MYTH: Most rapists are poor, uneducated and emotionally disturbed • FACT: Most rapists appear to be “normal” and come from any • background

32. Gangs • A. Gang- group of people involved in violent/illegal activities • 1. hang out together • 2. each member has a role • a. hard core- longest member, in charge • b. regular- does what is told to do • c. wanna-be- has opportunity to join • d. could-be- child/teen that wants in and joins the • illegal activities • 3. follow specific rules • 4. protect their “turf” • 5. have certain colors, clothing, tattoos • 6. own vocabulary, logos, signals • 7. nicknames

33. B. Risks to Gang Involvement • 1. revenge • 2. crime • 3. violence • 4. initiation- jumping in, rape (sexed • in)

34. C. Myths • 1. Feel like you belong • -property of the gang • 2. Escape from family problems • -same issues in gangs • 3. Get money for what I want • -$ from illegal activities • 4. Protection by gang • -initiation violence • -worry about other gangs

35. D. Protection from Gangs • 1. stay away from turf/activity • 2. be aware of gang colors • 3. use common sense in your • surroundings • 4. get involved in school/community • activities